Have you ever noticed how everyone seems to be super busy?
The answer to "What's new?" is almost inevitably... "Just keeping real busy." Why is this so common? It's almost abnormal to not fill your schedule to the brim with meetings, catchups, social events... run here, help there, add this, squeeze that in. We glorify the art of busyness!
I'll be the first to admit, I'm the queen of taking on too much. I remember as a little girl my Grandma always saying to me (when filling my plate with too much dessert), "Your eyes are bigger than your stomach." She was usually right, of course. Fast track some 20+ years later and I still manage to bite off more than I can chew!
Childhood lessons are easily forgotten as our lives become more complex. It no longer remains a simple question of "Is this good for me?" or "Do I have time?". Our decisions get convoluted with sub-layers such as:
How does this impact my 5 year plan? What will others think? What will my family think? Is taking a step backwards a failure?
There is no simple answer to questions like these, but one thing is true. There are only so many minutes in the day and being an adult requires you to prioritise! So how do we artfully take back control and make room for our priorities?
Step 1 - Let go of your own expectations
The hardest part about taking a step back is telling yourself it is OK. Friends and family are usually going to be super supportive, but its self pride and personal expectations that get in the way. Life is about adapting and growing through change... so let go of the preconception that your first draft is going to be perfecto.
Step 2 - Get back to the point
I find it super easy to lose track of WHY I'm doing something. Am I a big picture girl? No way, I'm totally lost in the details. Perhaps for a moment when I first set off to accomplish something... but then I hit the ground running and don't look back until I hit a wall. And that is dangerous!
Everyone loves a list of goals.... but try writing a second column of your motivations for each one. This way you can always come back to the POINT.
Step 3 - Commit to Make Room
It's time to get ruthless when it comes to prioritising your time and effort. You can't be and do everything.... but you can be and do your best at the things you put first. And what should be at the top of your list? Well... probably you.
There is a saying, "You can't pour from an empty cup."
Part of creativity, accomplishment and growth is taking time to appreciate the journey and replenish what you've put out to the Universe (fill your cup). If you don't make time to replenish, your cups going to run dry! Your expectations and motivations won't matter if you're burnt out and just trying to keep up with keeping up.
So make room, clear time, figure out what you need to replenish and put that at the top of your list. (Gosh I love a good list!)